Young and Powerful Despite our Wrinkles

by E. Craats

 

I know it might seem to be too personal and sometimes too embarassing for us women to talk about these issues in public. In a women's world there are still so many taboos, and even though we don't mention it, there are so many restrictions for us, and among the legal and illegal ones, we also face biological limmitations in regard to our capacity to act as fully responsible members of society in some societies and also we are constantly reminded by our own biological clocks of the challenges of age. Therefore, we women are much more discriminated due to ageeism than man.

Despite all of these absurd and inexplicable restrictions in our lives, we women keep on overcoming challenges, breaking all  records...even when we are criticized by not only man, also women.

For instance, a couple of weeks ago, the first woman President of Brazil, Mrs. Dilma Roussef, which is not perfect as none politicians are, have tried to empower woman by changing a very old law in the country in regarding to diplomas. Dilma, was extremelly criticized for introducing a non-gender law, which allows women to change their diplomas or certificates, if they generally and not specifically mention their titles according their genders. It is  law n0. 12.605, from April 03, 2012 after a proposal of another woman of influence in the Brazilian Senate, Serys Slhessarenko.

The act is justifiable considering that in Brazil, the Portuguese language have to express gender in two ways by adding an A at the end of a word (feminine) or an O (masculine). Well, it might stupid or irrelevant for man, or even women that do not care for the huge issue of discrimination against women in Brazil, but it is a great step for mankind if we consider the symbolic value of Dilma's act. In many countries in the world as it is the case of China, the language and traditions are already determining the destiny of women since the beggining of times. With all respect for language and traditions in all countries dictionaries are changing because of globalization, information and communication technology and words as Internet and other computer terms have been introduced without any complain. Changing the language, the grammar will not immediately change the position of women but will allow people to reflect on the issue. How can we change the mentality of the people if we do not change the language and the tone of the conversation, the meaning of words and everything we mean in regard to women empowerment?

Well, that is a long discussion. Today I just want to tell you that no matter the language you use to express your respect for women, we are powerful people and I have learnt that from my mother:

At the age of 72, she has educated 5 children, one of them, was a disabled child, my brother, Manuel Messias, he died at the age of 35 in her arms. Then, she decided to live closer to all her daughters in Brazil, except me. I was the rebel, adventurous child that like a wild bird has chosen to fly away and discover other horizons. Just like the pigeon in Elton John's song, one day, I have sent her a message:

" Turn me loose from your hands, let me fly to distant lands, over green fields, trees and mountains...Flowers and forest fountains. Home along the lanes of the skyway"...
She never got over it. She still calls me "Lica" (as she did when I was a little child) and ask if I am wearing socks and a scarf to protect my "fragile neck". She could not believe I could live my life without her. What she never understood is that she has built a home in my heart, she planted a garden in my soul and everytime I talk to her on the phone, even though I pretend to be smiling, I have tears rolling down on my face. Her soft voice is so powerful that she emanates authority with her sincere concerns and care out of love. No wonder, after caring for 5 children, she is now caring for great-grandchild Gabriel. Helping her grand-daughter to finish her degree on Nutrition at university. I was shocked to know that...I only have two children, and I cannot even think of taking care of another one, imagine to become an old baby-sitter for my great-grandchildren....
I know my mother is an exception, and I know now she was born to be a mother. I also know that Gabriel is bringing meaning to her life. Yet, while Gabriel's mother is wiselly continuing her education, it is my mother who is getting her PhD in mothering and motherhood!
I really hope that universities and employers all over the world, will reflect on the issue and prevent ageeism and gender issues in Education and matters of employment.
We should not force elderly people to work, but if they want to, I think our governments should provide them with assistance and create possibilities for them. Women have a great responsibility in all matters of society and we "all" should help them to do their jobs!

Today my mother taught me another lesson: love take away all the wrinkles, all the sorrows and gives us so much power that we are capable of starting everything all over again...

A great mother's day to my mother Iacy, to all mothers at the EJC community, to Dilma Rousseff for changing the law to empower women in Brazil, to my niece Nabilla, for continuing her education and doing so becoming an example for young, single mothers out there, a reason to make her baby Gabriel very proud of her and  to give my mother a sense of achievement and importance, despite her age!

Happy Mother's Day to All Mothers http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCGwe0Hpsn4&feature=BFa&list...

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i read it its good but i wanna say only 1 thing that I love my mom coz she has paradise in her feet for me...

Hi Waqar, thanks for your comments. I'm sure that your mother will enjoy to know it as well! Keep on writing...Eliana

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